So you think your child may have some kind of learning difficulty – perhaps dyslexia. You are not really too sure. I mean they are having a few struggles at school, but then isn’t that usual?
Maybe it’s just a phase. Let’s just wait a while and see.
The ‘phase’ has continued. Something niggles you now and again. A frustrated-bewildered look or the despondent sigh. You try cajoling, bribing, threatening – it doesn’t seem to be having much impact. A little bothered you speak to the teacher. Had they noticed anything?
It’s ok, they tell you – they’ll grow out of it.
Well, they are the professionals, you think. If anyone should know, they should. I shouldn’t let this get out of proportion. I was probably just imaging half of it anyway.
Time goes by….
One day something tips the balances and enough is enough. One screaming fit too many, another low mark on the homework and you realise that those worries you had before – they haven’t gone away.
As parents you begin to discuss this between the two of you. As you piece things together they start to make sense.
Only reads comic books, hates chapter books.
Consistently scores C’s & D’s – despite extra help.
Comes home from school frustrated, worn out and ready to take it out on anyone.
A nightmare to get to school in the mornings – any excuse to delay things.
Complains of being bullied and often comments on hating school.
Concentration span of a gnat.
Often complains of headaches.
Avoids contact with others in peer group and seems unable to sustain relationships.
Confidence and self-esteem on the floor.
You both agree this is not imagination, this is not just a hunch. There is something wrong. This time you’ll both go to the parents evening.
Parent’s evening over – you are drained, exhausted and somewhat frightened. This time the new teacher agreed that yes there was reason for concern. However she maintains she is already doing what she can and doesn’t have many more options open to her.
Now what? Well the school’s pretty good. Never had any real issues with them and if she’s doing what she can then – isn’t that good enough. What more can we really ask?
You brace yourself, they know it too. You all know it. You tell yourself you can’t expect much, your child just wasn’t made that way. Secretly you hoped for better, so when the results come back you still feel crushed. “School is a waste of time, Mum.” you hear and you wonder if in this case it just might be true.
But now school is not the only thing that concerns you. You never brought your child up to hang out with the wrong crowd and you have a feeling that the habits they are forming are going to have long term consequences. Too many empty bottles, too many highs, too many friends who think nothing of shoplifting.
Why didn’t they tell you that the end of all this would be brushes with the law?
Sadly all too often school failure leads to low Self-Esteem.
Low Self-Esteem leads to Depression.
Depression leads to Addictions.
Addictions lead to Crime.
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And even if it doesn’t lead to crime, it often leads to a life of low achievement.
Low achievement means – struggling to get a job.
Struggling to earn enough to get help.
Struggling to develop and maintain good relationships.
ALC treats many, many adults and sees good progress in a large proportion of them. However the progress could be so much more if they hadn’t missed out on so many foundational building blocks early in their education.
As adults we often tell ourselves we don’t have the time to go back and learn the things we’ve missed, so we still find ourselves worse off than if we had addressed this at an earlier age. We may also remain shackled to past conditioning that we are able to do something, because we’ve tried before and didn’t succeed.
As we have grown up over the years, we have made many acquaintances. Most of whom have their impression of you already formed. Changing that impression can take work. Children are expected to adapt and change – we often wonder what they’ll grow up to be. Adults aren’t so prone to seismic shifts in behaviour so we don’t expect it of others either.
Change is possible, but takes more effort the longer we leave it. If you can turn a rowing boat around in a minute – how long do you think it will take to turn around a containership or an oil tanker?
Change is possible at any stage, however the sooner a problem is addressed, the less of a problem there is to address.
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